Tuesday, April 10, 2007

Married to an A.D.D Man

My husband has a notable case of a semi-debilitating disease called A.D.D. A disease for which he has yet to be treated. I had no idea what I was getting into when I married him. I mean, I knew he was a creative genius, but I didn't have a clue as to what that would look like on a day to day basis.

Oh man.

I don't think I need to explain what it's like. He's already done that. He has a doctor's appointment today because of a cruddy cold, and we both decided it would be a good idea to get the doc to refer him to an adult A.D.D. diagnostic center. The quack shack at Rice won't give him drugs for A.D.D. unless he's been officially diagnosed.

So, after our morning search for his ever-elusive wallet (which we found in his coat pocket), he hurries out the door, running late and frusterated about it. I walk him to the door like a good little wife, offer a loving "be careful", and then, as I close the door, holler after him as he's walking to his car,

"Don't forget to ask about the A.D.D."

???

Well, there's hope. There's always hope.

12 comments:

Baca's Head said...

: ) ha ha

The Cachinnator said...

Well, you never know. I mean he may one day decide... hey, look at that butterfly!

FancyPants said...

This would be where I say...

Yeah, OK, pretty butterfly. May one day decide what?

Hello?

May one day decide WHAT?

lectio divas said...

I don't know if I could take ADD on top of the already horrid disease of male's inability to multi-task. Blessings for those really hard days.

Chaotic Hammer said...

Okay, that was freakin' funny!

euphrony said...

Hope springs eternal.

But with all the rain here in Houston, it can be hard to find the right spring.

FancyPants said...

Lectio: Hello! I just noticed these comments. Good to be blogging with you.

Adding to the list of diseases: Male's inability to locate the dirty clothes hamper.

Euphrony: Hello to you as well! Also glad to be blogging with you.

MamasBoy said...

Is Seth's ADD part of his "creative genius?" If so, would medicating him impact that at all. Just thinking out loud here. I have below average creativity, but I wonder what it is that makes others so creative. Does it come from being able to jump all over the place in one's mind and somehow pull it together?

MB

FancyPants said...

Hello Mamasboy! Good to be blogging with you.

About the A.D.D medication, that's a good question. I've wondered that myself. Actually, he's "tried" this medication before and from what he says, it helps the creativity because it focuses the ideas.

I can really tell a difference when he's taken the medicine before. He'll remind me to do something...at which point I blankly stare at him for a few dazzled seconds, repeat what he said in my head, cherish the few wonderful seconds of sanity, and then say, "OK babe, thanks."

Mz Jackson said...

Because I have my brother's malady, I understand your pain. I have lost my keys in my purse three times this week already. If it weren't for my husband I would be up you-know-what Creek.

FancyPants said...

I think your whole family is plagued, Mz. J.

But it's the most creative family I've ever known, so that doesn't surprise me.

majorsteve said...

I'm late to this thread but the title A.D.D. caught my eye. The last D is for Disorder, which I have a major problem with. I do not think it's a disorder. I think it is just a special way of thinking and it has a lot to do with creativity. Although I do not consider it a disease or a disorder, I should point out that those with "ADD" have a hard time making much money in our technologically oriented society, which continues to require more and more specialization and years of focused education. Many very succsessful entrepeneurs have ADD but sometimes success is just luck and hard work. Many more that you don't hear about work hard and fail, because the world of ideas is hit and miss. Let's face it; it is very hard to be an engineer, or a surgeon or even a lawyer when you're hypercreative and extremely divergent in your thinking. We just can't sit and focus on something that is not interesting to us. Yes, it is maddening but sometimes, for a short time, we can see things with a clarity that others will never understand or experience. But it is debilitating and frustrating. It is very hard to finish a project such as writing a story, a song, a painting. We just can't seem to ...
hey look at that butterfly!