Sunday, April 15, 2007


Ever been in a room full of musicians? Awkward, awkward, awkward.

We attended lovely wedding festivities this weekend where probably 70% of the guests were musicians of some sort. Here's what it was like:

Musician #1: Dude, I heard your ukulele playing during the ceremony. Nice, man! (Thinking to himself: I wonder if Musician #2 thinks I suck at the ukulele.)

Musician #2: (With furrowed brow, nodding the head) Hey, thanks man. (Thinking to himself: I wonder if he really liked it or if he's just saying he liked it.)

(More nods, hands in pockets)

Musician #1: (Notices friend of Musician #2, but doesn't say anything, wants to say something, so just glances back and forth from Musician #2 to friend)

Musician #2: (Notices the glances) Oh hey, this is my friend Musician #3.

Musician #1: Hey. So what do you play? (Thinking to himself, is Musician #3 as awesome as I am at music?)

Musician #3: Oh, um, ya know, the trumpet, the accordian, the hammer dulcimer. I just mess around, really. I mean, I went out on a run with the coolest band ever, but...ya know. (Thinking to himself, does Musician #1 think that Musician #2 is a better musician than me?)

Musician #1: Cool, man. (Damn, he's more awesome than me.)

(More nods, more glances, straighten the shirt, more nods.)

I'm a musician, so I can say this. Why are we so freakin' insecure?

Musicians like to form cliques because they are insecure. In fact, that's what bands are. They're cliques that musicians form to feel more secure. Then they don't have to worry about the rest of the normal world. They can just make sure they feel better about themselves and rock on.


truevyne said...

I'll have to pass this on to my husband who is a musician. When he's hangin' with other musicians, is this what he is really thinking? When he takes me to musician haunts I think deep thoughts like, "Do they have chocolate cake here?", "I wonder if he lives in Nashville...",and I ask questions like, "Do you have a cat?", "Show me pictures of your kids", and "What's your wife like?"

FancyPants said...

What does your husband play?

Is he more awesome than me?

FancyPants said...

Just kidding

truevyne said...

Dear Fancy,
I'm married to Bono.
Just kidding, too.

FancyPants said...

Ha HA!


Chaotic Hammer said...

Ever been in a room full of musicians?

Yes, I have.

In Nashville, they don't call it "a room full of musicians", they call it "any public place".

I'm actually pretty much not kidding.

FancyPants said...

Yeah, I believe it.

Is that hard to deal with?

Chaotic Hammer said...

No, not at all.

I'm not sure if I've just been lucky, or if my experience is the norm, but so far everyone I've met here in the music biz is down to earth and as nice as can be.

I'm sure there are people here with that "too cool for you" or "better than you" attitude, but I haven't encountered it much.

FancyPants said...

That's really great. I remember your friends, and they are extremely nice. What a blessing.

I'm sure it helps that you don't bring that attitude towards them. We, or I, really, can complain about attitudes and insecurity, but it's important to examine myself and make sure I don't have the log in the eye.

*The Blogstar said...

I did your blog.

Well done.



FancyPants said...

You did my blog?

I could have sworn I was the one that did my blog.....


Thank you, Blogstar. I appreciate your encouragement. Great to be blogging with you.